Faith

The Betrayal of a Friend

“If an enemy were insulting me, I could endure it; if a foe were rising against me, I could hide.

But it is you,

a man like myself, my companion, my close friend, with whom I once enjoyed sweet fellowship at the house of God, as we walked among the worshippers.”

Psalm 55:12-14

One of the greatest pains you can face is the utter betrayal of a close and trusted friend. Indeed, I have felt no greater pain than when I was rejected by those I loved dearly.

It is the ultimate rejection – to be known and then forgotten.

Wounds that deep are not easily healed. But take heart, there is a path to healing.

Healing takes time. Don’t rush it! Instead rush to God:

“Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken.” Psalm 55:22

Those who run to God in their distress will not fall. When others fail you, trust God.

12 thoughts on “The Betrayal of a Friend

  1. Rejection is unavoidable in life. No one has ever succeeded without first facing rejection. If I hadn’t been rejected by those I thought who support my ministry/blog. I wouldn’t have met wonderful bloggers such as yourself that I never thought would be interested in what I had to say.

    I understand rejection all too well. It was during those times I felt the most alone, an outcast and unwanted. In fact, so much of the hurt and struggle isn’t even based on the rejection itself but what we tell ourselves about the rejection.

    The cruel ways that we crucify ourselves about the betrayal makes us feel hopeless about relationships and humanity. Which is why we react to betrayal and rejection equally or more significantly than the experience itself. This is why allowing God to heal us is so important!

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    1. Wow! So many good thoughts here. I totally agree, rejection is unavoidable in life! Yet so very painful. It’s so important to keep our hearts soft so that we can grow through each trial we face. I’m glad that you have stayed strong and kept up with blogging, despite being discouraged! That can be such a difficult thing to do! Thanks for taking the time to stop and write such a thoughtful response!

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    1. I’m sorry the past few days (weeks?) have been so rough for you Stephen. I’ll be reading your blog later on this morning. And I don’t have the Sunday school answer key for you, nor do I think an easy answer would help you in any way. Depression, anxiety, insomnia (for me) can make us feel like completely different people. Add the stresses of life to it all and things get downright ugly. I didn’t even recognize myself when I was going through the worst of it.

      I have been very angry at God and at others before. Bitterness literally kills us inside, more than we ever know. I think the only reason I didn’t give up my faith completely at one point is that I couldn’t deny how much God changed my life. I was addicted to alcohol at 17. Partied without thought of others, got used and abused by many guys. Yet I still remember that night I looked up at the stars and told God that if he was real, I needed him to save me from what I was becoming. That night was awful. Two men twice my age slept with me and if that’s was it, I would’ve never entered a church again. I wish I could explain this all without being long winded as I’m sure you have little time to read blog comments. But God set a whirlwind of events in motion after that. People from the church came and surrounded me with support, I experienced the Holy Spirit for the first time, I found out I was pregnant. I experienced many miracles. Including when my son was very sick. I would literally pray, and the exact prayer I had prayed was answered.
      God doesn’t work so remarkably in my life anymore (that I can see) but my faith was so solidified over those years, that it’s the only thing that’s sure in my life. People have let me down, family has let me down, money has let me down. My dreams and goals have let me down.
      But what God did in my life back the was real, and it all was put into motion with one simple prayer: “God Help Me”

      If I decided to find some other meaning in life, I don’t think I would find it. Everything else is temporary. I still believe that God cares for you Stephen, and that he can change things around. I’m old school like that 🙂 It’s ok to be angry, just don’t give up on him.
      I prayed and got Psalm 51:10-12 this morning as my plea for you Stephen. If you find the motivation to read it and pray it too, do so. Take care.

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  2. Betrayal hurts so deeply. I know. Twice. It never makes sense. But Judas betraying Jesus makes no sense either. Praying God heals all our hearts and praying we will never betray those we hold so dear at the moment. Relationships are never easy. Thank you for this post.

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